Typical understanding of romantic love are as followings: to present flowers to a girl at every date, to take girl to a restaurant, cinema, etc. And in the predominant number of cases the guy pays. If a girl suggests to pay for herself, it can be considered as a disregard\disrespect of a man's ability to support both. If a girl pays for both, a guy is immediately considered Alfonso.
In the family love all mentioned above disappear in most cases, since a man is busy earning money and woman is responsible for rising children, keeping the household. The work of woman is mostly underestimated by man, so they do no see any reason to help her while man gets extremely tired after work, as they say. This results in a high divorce rate.
In the extreme stereotype of family love a woman just "has a right to be loved" and a "man to be breadwinner" as in Russian movie Bless the Woman (Blagoslovite Zhenshshinu, 2003). Though it deals with the role of woman in the wartime.
This all is best depicted in a Russian cartoon made in USSR times. I am amazed by most of Russian cartoons of my childhood. Thought "cartoon" tells us that it is for children, many Russian cartoon of that time are full of wisdom worth watching by every adult and adults only can understand that wisdom. These cartoons are needless to translate because they speak for themselves and are highly symbolic.
The cartoon is called "I will present you a star". http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cu6sFEud6Rk It will also confirm that my understanding of these "loves" fully matches common belief.
Though of course there are people who does not fit this reality but they are just exceptions of a rule. Yeah, I called it reality because it is so in my country. It becomes stereotype when it is only compared with the roles of men and women in western societies, for those who have a chance to compare whether directly or indirectly.
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